My Ex: How To Get My Ex Back…”I’m Sorry?”
Get My Ex Back: Easy Come Easy Go?
Dear Friend has it ever occurred to you to apologise to your ex? Dumb question if you really do want to get your ex back, I know. Well don’t…and here’s why…Apologies come too easy! We all know the saying “Easy come-Easy go!”
At least, don’t apologise before you have read what I have to say to you…
In South Africa
This was emphasised on the one occasion I happened to catch one such apology being filmed. It was a young woman travelling home to her Mother to ask to be forgiven and allowed back into the home. Well, she got home and with a great deal of crying and sniffling (her Mom too) she made the apology in such earnest, accompanied by profuse promises that her bad ways were over and done with and that she would make up for all the things she had done wrong… To her credit, the Mom sat and listened to all the girl had to say, gave her the time she needed to lay her cards on the table and then dropped the blade of the guillotine! NO!
Ummmm… Say what? Did she say “NO!”? Yes! She said NO! Why? Well, her answer went something like this as she took her daughter’s hand in her own and looked so lovingly at her
“I love and you know that. But I cannot accept this apology, all the cameras in the world will not convince me that you are sincere this time. You have done this sort of thing so many times before and I forgave you time and again. But not this time. When we last spoke, I said you were to leave me alone now and not come home, I meant every word. Enough is enough! You must go now and prove to the world that you have changed, and until you do just that your words mean nothing!”
This does not mean that apologies have no place in restoring relationships, they do. But an apology must be a special thing and not something that comes easily by force of habit, for example. When an apology is made it must be backed up by sincere action and change or it will carry no weight. What can make an apology weightless now is when it is preceded by many others. Along with a sincere apology also comes a change in they way you act towards your partner…
Actions speak louder than any vocal yibber-yabber! Once you have learned just how interesting and relieving it is to get along with someone of the opposite sex you will be excited and motivated to put it all into practise. But none of this happens by pure chance, it has be learned from another who knows their stuff well…or you will fail
So with sincere apologies comes a desire and willingness to learn and back down, to put some well planned knowledge into action. Are you willing to hold that apology for a little while? To take a short time-out to get your ducks in a row before you get moving again? If you have read this far I would say that you are exactly there right now! Well done! Visit
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Kind Regards, Ivan
I am married and a father, I so deeply appreciate the value of a long-lasting relationship. There is something in that sphere of interaction that is far removed from brief acquaintances and living alone or with friends or family. A passionate relationship needs trust and time to build up, and once it is established there is no substitute. It is so easy to want out of a relationship when you are in it, and it can be very hard to weigh up the benefits when you are under enormous pressure emotionally
Go well, Kind Regards, Ivan
